My Manifesto: The Incoherent Ramblings of a Madman

Who the hell are you?

Some person has sent you what I imagine was a personal email or other form of correspondence, they have shared their dreams with you and want to share at least some part of their life with you and you respond in public with 'Umm - how about no'. Do you have any idea about how to treat other people?

You are obviously important to this person, they want to plan their life with you in it, what you say and do matters to them.

You mention that your weight is fine and that you aren't on meds, as opposed to your friend who I guess is not happy with their weight and on some kind of medication. Does this make you better than them, why are they not happy with their weight is it because of the way you make them feel about it? And to point out a minor typo is petty.

It seems to me that as long as this other person (who I infer to be your partner) thinks low of themselves you can feel safe and secure knowing you are better than them, you have the power, perhaps they should feel privileged that you have anything to do with them?? By making this person feel crap you make yourself feel better.

Buddy you don't deserve her.

And sweetie if you are reading this -walk away, you need to believe in yourself and that won't happen with him around. It is good to have plans, but this might not be the only option to succeeding in those plans, make yourself happy and the rest will (hopefully and of course no unrealistic promises here) fall into place. Seriously get out, he isn't making you healthy. You ARE better.
 

“Who the hell are you?” – Apart from the obvious, I am someone who realises that they are in over their heads. I am someone who has had the plans for the next five (5) years of their life laid out with specific goals and deadlines. I am someone who realises that the realities behind the plans involve a long term commitment both emotionally and financially of which require the full commitment of two (2) people. I am someone who is in a relationship that now has an arbitrary use-by date. I am someone who has not been consulted in something that is beyond a personal plan as it involves others.

”Some person has sent you what I imagine was a personal email or other form of correspondence, they have shared their dreams with you and want to share at least some part of their life with you and you respond in public with 'Umm - how about no'. Do you have any idea about how to treat other people?” – I was told to respond in public. I always respond in public. I have no issue with responding in public. If you don’t want to read the public response then you don’t have to read the public response. The answer is no. I cannot be a part of something that I have had no say in. A relationship of any description should be based on equality. It is not a life plan for an individual as suggested – it is a life plan involving others.

”You are obviously important to this person, they want to plan their life with you in it, what you say and do matters to them.” – then why was I not consulted before this plan was finalised?

”You mention that your weight is fine and that you aren't on meds, as opposed to your friend who I guess is not happy with their weight and on some kind of medication. Does this make you better than them, why are they not happy with their weight is it because of the way you make them feel about it? And to point out a minor typo is petty.” – What makes you think that I feel better than them? I am merely stating that I do not want to lose weight or come off medication. You are implying that I think I am better than them which means that you think that there is an issue with them. It is you who has judged them – not me. To point out a minor typo was petty – but was inline with the original intent of my message.

”It seems to me that as long as this other person (who I infer to be your partner) thinks low of themselves you can feel safe and secure knowing you are better than them, you have the power, perhaps they should feel privileged that you have anything to do with them?? By making this person feel crap you make yourself feel better.” – Again you are assuming this person feels low of themselves and that I think I am better than them by making them feel crap – but what gives you the impression that the person feels low? Merely having a weight goal to aim towards does not mean that they feel low but merely makes them goal oriented – which is the original intent of their message. The other person merely wants goals to aim towards so that they feel they have purpose in life. I do not think I am better than them nor do I ever deliberately make them feel inferior – unlike someone, such as yourself, who has told the other person that they have a low self esteem, have a weight problem, and should be feeling crap. You are doing the judging – not I.

”Buddy you don't deserve her.

And sweetie if you are reading this -walk away, you need to believe in yourself and that won't happen with him around. It is good to have plans, but this might not be the only option to succeeding in those plans, make yourself happy and the rest will (hopefully and of course no unrealistic promises here) fall into place. Seriously get out, he isn't making you healthy. You ARE better.” – Ah – now we’re getting to the crux of it all. True, it is not the only option. In fact it is not even an option. An option for a couples plans involve the couple talking about them first. As to what I am and aren’t making her feel – how can you criticise me on this matter when you are the one who has told her she has low self esteem, a weight problem, and is unhealthy? I have at no stage said any of the above in my message.
 

Lauren - my points are thus as follows:

1. i was originally being sarcastic which, granted, did not come across in the post; and
2. You cannot draw the conclusions that you have based on the limited information that you have - and if you think you can then you are very misinformed.
 

fuck me.

For christs sake, dont get married so young, wait til your 26 before you decide that you want kids instead of popping them out then, and travel around the world BEFORE you get into any serious relationships. hear me?? BEFFOOORREEEE!!!

whoever wrote this needs to stay on their medication, grow up a bit, be less self centered and narrow minded before they attempt to plan their life out and place a white picket fence around it. god help their future "partner" (or should i say "facilitator").


~ Siobhan
 

for that matter... who the hell is "Lauren Fitzgerald".

Quotes from Lauren -
"Do you have any idea about how to treat other people?"
"Buddy you don't deserve her."


Too personal. Looks like a fake post to me. I suspect "Lauren" is actually whoever set out those plans for themselves in the first place.

Just wanted to point out the obvious.

~ Siobhan
 

Hell - I just took Lauren for a lesbian - but that would be judging someone based on no information - and I wouldn't want to do that now would I *cough* Lauren *cough*